October 25, 2014, 01:48:23 PM by Jackie in Jaki's Boudoir

Ok so i'm in a strange story.

There is this argentinian actor I met in New York 3 years ago. We got along well and became friends quickly. I wasn't single at the time so there was no flirting. But since, as you know, I became single again; we started flirting.
Recently, he had to come in France for a professional meeting. I wasn't in my Paris house but in my Bordeaux house when he came, so he asked if he could come see me and stay at my place. I agreed of course.

So he came and we had fun, we got into some kind of "no strings attached" relationship. Lets say we liked each other.

Then he had to go, but he stayed in Paris a few days before leaving France. So I organized him some days with my friends so he could enjoy his stay. I asked my best friends to take care of him and show him around basically. I asked my Paris driver to drive them around. I reserved restaurants for them, I paid for activities and I arranged meeting with some powerful people to give him work opportunities. Because I'm that kind of host and I care about him.

I ask him one thing : "we are not a couple, you're free to do whatever you want. But please don't do anything with my friend. I won't see them the same way after this and I don't want that." He promised not to do anything.

When he is in Paris, I sent him a few texts to check on him but he rarely answer supposedly because he is "busy" and doesn't have internet. I get it, most of the times I take days to answer too.
Comes the day he has to go back to Argentina. He sends me a message before leaving and a selfie at the airport.

3 days after :

Me : "So how was your flight ? :)"


2 days after :

Him : Hey I had just five minutes of internet yesterday in the airport cause my cel didnt get wifi so it cut. It was a great trip cause i sleep the hole trip!" (copying and posting lol)
Me : So how did you like Paris ?
Him : It was awsome i love paris wanna leave there
Me : And how did it go with all the things I planned ? And my friends ?
Him : All you planned was great and your friends are so nice!
Me : did you see them outside of the things I planned ? :)
Him : No, I was too tired to do anything else jaja

2 days ago I received a call from one of my friend. She was part of the group I introduce to him.

"I don't know if I should tell you but I feel so bad I'd rather tell you now than have you find out... Your guy... He slept with your A" (A being one of my best girl friends).
"He slept at her place for two days, she took him to the airport. They were really into each other."

Now i don't really know how should I react. I am too hurt about the fidelity thing, we're not married or even in a proper relationship.
But the fact he promised he would touch my friend. The fact now I can't deal with that girl cause even though I love her she will forver be associated with this in my head. The fact they both decided to keep it from me. He lied. The disrecpect he had to do this when I was giving him so much.

I feel kinda dumb to give so much to someone and be treated like a fool in return. I'm not a careful person but i don't want to be either and now I feel like I should be more careful because otherwise boys are going to keep using me.

I haven't told him or her I know about it but I don't know what to say or how to act either. I feel like I should move on and forget the guy but at the same time I kinda want to kill them both.

Any advice ? How would you react ? What's your opinion ? Was I too naive ? Are men bastards ?

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André - October 25, 2014, 02:30:42 PM

In my opinion you should talk with the girl who stayed with him face-to-face and see what she tells you. But I never had a romantic story, so I can't give you that much advices...
Jackie - October 25, 2014, 02:37:33 PM

Thanks André for that. I'm thinking about talking it out with her but I don't know if anything good could come out of it knowing how fiery i am!
Gabriel - October 25, 2014, 02:38:54 PM

The guilty is him not your friend, cuz you talked to HIM don't touch your friends, and he didn't respected you...
Depths of Bloomfield - October 25, 2014, 02:41:04 PM

Jackie - October 25, 2014, 02:42:50 PM

Gabriel, I agree with you. She didn't really know what kind of relationship I had with him and didn't promise me anything but he did.

Still she asked my friends not to say a word about it...
Marie - October 25, 2014, 03:37:44 PM


And A is a bitch for doing that.... Yeah you and Argentina weren't serious, but no friend should touch another girl's man, despite it not being serious #fact
Marie - October 25, 2014, 03:38:42 PM

I say cut whatever that is, he's a dick! This is why, serious relationships are the best <3
Jackie - October 25, 2014, 03:41:21 PM

lol Marie all "angry asian woman" up in here!

it's not worth my time, clearly. I'm happy I didn't sleep with him. For that i'm HAPPY :D lol
Marie - October 25, 2014, 06:37:57 PM

Get in to a long-term relationship sis! ;D It's much better that way LOL
Jackie - October 25, 2014, 06:53:44 PM

I havent find anybody with who it worked since GA... My love life has been chaotic lately. Just in 2014 I have broken up with 2 guys and been cheated on by two others lol
Marie - October 25, 2014, 07:49:54 PM

4 guys in 2014, is a lot... I've been with same guy since last year LOL
André - October 25, 2014, 07:57:29 PM

Jaki, remember that you've the bros of the forum when you need :) You should end everything that you had with him, I cannot say I was surprised because I wasn't, again saying the average man isn't loyal at all and thinks all the girls are for him... ::)
Jackie - October 25, 2014, 08:04:07 PM

@Marie well one was still GA who i've been with for years, the other was my rebound, then i was single for a while and it all got fast this summer with Eddy who had a side chick and now the argentinian... lol

I'm usualy like you, I like good relationships and I've tried with all of them (apart from the rebound obviously) but... FAIL lol
Jackie - October 25, 2014, 08:05:31 PM

@André is it ok if I wait for you to be 18 and we get married ? ;D

and you know it, this jerks AIN'T LOYAL
André - October 25, 2014, 08:13:05 PM

lol, I would LOVE to meet you and have a romantic trip on Paris <3333 I want to visit that city for SOOO long!
Yeah, those bitches will never change...
Jackie - October 25, 2014, 08:22:23 PM

lol André wanting to use me as a sugar mama >>>>>>>>>>>
André - October 25, 2014, 08:28:09 PM

And I'm going to be 18 in less than 3 years LOL
Jackie - October 25, 2014, 08:37:27 PM

then go hit the gym honey, you have 3 years to get ready lol
André - October 25, 2014, 08:38:56 PM

LOL, I can't
Depths of Bloomfield - October 25, 2014, 10:43:33 PM

who takes someone named Eddy seriously
Marie - October 26, 2014, 01:24:43 AM

I can't at Andre and Jaki right now LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL ;D

IDK who told me this, but when you're single long enough, you find a good guy LOL
Jackie - October 26, 2014, 01:29:11 AM

Basilisk, his name is Edward, Eddy's just a nickname lol
Jackie - October 26, 2014, 01:30:18 AM

And Marie, stop judging our future wedding!

I'm not rushing to be in a relationship, I never did actually. It always "happen".



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